Gay closeted

Here is a typical comment from one of these gay fathers:

It feels wrong to simply follow my wants as if I have no concern for anyone else. It makes the accuser look nice and LGBTQ supportive. Many women (and men) in this situation feel that not only is their sexuality under attack but also their very person-hood. The same anger flared toward Clay Aiken in the 2nd season of American Idol.

New York: Basic Books. However, stigma management may actually be increasingly done situationally.
Related terminology
A person who is in the closet may be disparagingly referred to as a "closet case".
The Glass Closet (Harlow, 2006) refers to those who may not be out, even to themselves, but others can plainly see that they are, in fact, in the closet.
Pagans who keeps their religious ideas secret are known as being "in the broom closet".
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References
Chauncey, George (1994).

The love I had for my wife was more than platonic—sex was good—but it wasn’t the mind-blowing kind of sex that we both discovered later with other partners. Denial is commonly used to prevent one from seeing the consequences of their behavior. Early theories about the development of homosexuality reinforced this idea that to be “a well-developed homosexual,” starting in adolescence, one begins to pass through stages of homosexual development in a linear fashion.

And as a therapist and a human, I understood they had their own time frame of when they were ready. Organizations and online resources can provide guidance and a sense of connection.
Creating a Supportive Environment
The Role of Family and Friends
Family and friends play a vital role in creating a supportive environment.
One protection against that shame is to blame someone else rather than accept responsibility. When Bruce Jenner was quietly beginning to show signs of transitioning to Caitlyn Jenner on Keeping Up with The Kardashians, there were lots of nasty comments. I remember in the ’90s when the LGBTQ community knew that Ellen DeGeneres, Rosie O’Donnell, and Sean Hayes (Jack from the NBC sitcom Will and Grace) were lesbian and gay but wouldn’t come out publicly and say so.

The closet narrative sets up an implicit dualism between being "in" or being "out". I feel incredible guilt for hiding these things from my wife for so long, even when I believed it was in her best interest.
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If they did, the community reasoned, it would help to change the culture, and so they were angry about the silence.

I’ve been thinking about this ever since I filmed a video on TikTok, and expressed an unpopular view about how straight men can still enjoy sex with men.
I was surprised by all the comments I’m still getting from people who saw the video and assumed that I was either a closeted gay or bisexual man.

“It’s your fault that I am the way that I am.” They refuse to see a therapist, believing “Why would I see a therapist to fix your problem?”
Denial is also commonly used. Tearoom Trade: Impersonal Sex in Public Places. Chicago: Aldine.
Kennedy, Elizabeth. Women assimilate this same stereotype, and both men and women pay a penalty for straying from the roles prescribed for them.

In fact, many people never decide to “come out” for numerous reasons including religion, race, and culture. Often it is accompanied by doubt and self-blame, for example, "If I'd been enough of a woman (or man), he (or she) would not be gay.”
Since all men and women have been raised in similar cultures, they have incorporated these “ideals” of masculinity whether they are gay, straight, bisexual, or other.

I had to remind myself, “Don’t stomp off pissed. 3.