Gay sex in the jail

To work, any change in policy would need to take such inmate concerns into account.

GLBT prisoners were specifically asked whether they felt protected or victimized in their present prison environment. And before that ever happens, there has to be a high degree of trust between both men.

Remember, privacy and space are a problem so it is extremely rare when guys do anything.

I’m the one who made bad choices and own that.

I was given time to prepare and get my personal affairs in order (usually 60-90 days) and was ordered to self-surrender on October 12, 2005.

The thought of going to prison scared the living crap out of me. One resented the cost of medical treatment offered to inmates electing gender transition when necessary medical care for inmates is so inadequate.

False accusations by inmates and consensual relationships between inmates and guards are significant problems. I have made it my goal to be positive in others’ lives as well, and to put this episode behind me. 

The whole situation underscores the weaknesses in a prison’s reporting system. Six of the 73 reported having been raped at least once during their confinement, but almost all inmates say that most sex is consensual.

Most (19 straight inmates, 15 gay or bi-sexual) said they were tolerant, as long as the activity was discreet and not public. He stood there, his shorts on the floor, his erection in my face. In these circumstances, it is highly problematic to describe the sexual activity as genuinely consensual, because it was only offered as a commercial exchange.

Three male interviewees disclosed that they had been raped in prison, by prisoners.

We exchanged a few words, but I learned he would leave in a couple of weeks, so I just stayed to myself, mainly on my bunk. 

Then, when he left, I had the room to myself.

On the second night of being alone, a Saturday, I was awakened by the orderly who assigned me the room. Some straight inmates are so anxious to conceal their secret life that they will loudly voice homophobic sentiments in front of other inmates or even beat up gay inmates with whom they have been involved.

When asked how many sexual partners interviewees had had in prison, numbers ranged from one to “about 30, 35”.

One heterosexual man said that he had had consensual sex with gay or bisexual prisoners “out of necessity”. The simple answer is yes BUT it’s not like the type of boyfriend you might think about on the outside.

First, the relationships are almost always kept on the DL, even if you are openly gay.

Obviously, location matters so bear this in my as you read what follows.

1. As a prisoner in the early stages of a long sentence, he was advised that to “grass” upon other prisoners in this way would “mark his cards” for the rest of his time inside and would increase his chances of victimisation in the future.

The research found that there was a tacit acceptance by prison staff of both pornography and masturbation.

There’s no sauna or spa. I turned off my CPAP machine, which I wore for sleep apnea, slipped off the mask and asked what was up.

“You like the room?” he asked me, a slight slur in his voice.

I knew he liked to get drunk and do drugs. Several inmates worried that more open and public relationships would trigger quarrels and fights, noting that men who have landed in prison almost by definition have problems with self-control and immoderation.

There is no privacy.

7. I was grateful for that. Some gay inmates said that the loudest complaints about sex came from either “snitches” courting favor with prison staff or ex-gay religious converts.

Inmates were also asked whether they thought a more liberal policy toward gay sex in prison would reduce tensions or create more problems.

In fact, it’s not talked about that much. Other facilities have bunk beds in hallways. Prison economy is real

When you are in prison, you learn very quickly about the underground prison economy.